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Disciplining Children

LifeisaGarden

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Spanking only comes from two events.

Talking back/disrespect shown towards parent or adult in guardian role or when doing something stupid that could cause serious harm to themselves or someone else.

I'm quite the jerk taking away stuff...but it hasn't seemed to work lately, BUT we're thinking about new stuff.

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I think I was spanked until I was 9 or 10..after that..it was extra housework or poo got taken away

I do remember though getting back handed twice..once by Dad for not cleaning my room after he told me to do probably 20 times...

the other time was by my Mom when I was 17...we were fighting ...as usual and I said "What are you gonna do, fuging hit me?!"....SLLLLLLLLLAP! My Dad was right in the middle of that poo...God, I was such a fuging bitch

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Kids need to be spanked until they about 14. Then they will start settling in. Remember, you spank the child because you care and love him/her.

this was my fathers philosophy... we do well, we're rewarded. we fug up, we're getting spanked with the wooden "stick" under the bed + grounded (didn't have much until i was older, so basically no TV, no playing with friends, pretty much went to bed after dinner... later on, no gameboy, sega genesis, music <-- hurt the most)

i hated it, and thought i hated my father for most of my younger years, but now that i'm an adult i have the utmost love and respect for him. i've turned out nothing like him, but i know that i wouldn't be who i am now without the way he raised me and wouldn't change a thing.

obviously, different people can get to that same outcome in different ways... and i'm not necessarily advocating spanking, but it's what worked for me - a hard-headed kid.

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You have to know as they get older what gets their attention. When my girls were younger the only time we spanked was either lying or hitting someone else. As they got older the mere mention of spanking would alter behavior.

Now as 13 and 10 we deprive them of stuff they like or want but you have to make it short term and avoid exasperating them. Because the they may do what you want to shut you up and that creates a wall.

At times we will take something away and ask them what should it be. We never punish them with more work or go to their room. Some kids want to go to their room.

What we also do is offer a chance to fix it. If they can fix it then no punishment.

One other thing to consider. Sometimes the punishment is more effective when the other parent does it. If its just mom or dad they get tone deaf or associate one over the other with bad stuff.

My wife and I trade off. Also mom and dad ALWAYS need to be on the same page on what the punishment is. If you disagree get it settled before you talk to them.

Hang in there.

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The thing I hate the most that she does right now is when she's told to do something she'll sit there until she's ready to get up or until I raise my voice and start counting. She's hoping I'll walk off and forget what I told her to do.

One of the problems kids have at this age is selfishness, so yes, when she pulls the "write 10 things you like about your parents" from the jar, it helps her think of someone else instead of herself and own feelings.

I don't spank, I did occasionally when she was little but like biscuit said, only for dangerous situations.

I recently saw someone bite their 3 year old for biting another child. WTH? You don't bite your kid!

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