Question for the married Huddlers.

[Darth Biscuit]

nc_biscuit and MH - I get what you're saying and I would agree that most folks who take the plunge at 22 are going to have a tough row to hoe, but that doesn't mean its impossible.

I guess I'm just taking exception with the idea that its a forgone conclusion that it should be avoided before your late twenties.

No and it shouldn't be, that's not what I meant... it's possible to find your soul mate at a very young age, some people do that and I'm happy for them.

What I plan to tell my boys is that your early twenties are for learning who you are and what you want in life, don't rush into any decisions, live your life and have fun. If you find a girl you really love, make absolutely sure she is THE ONE before making that kind of commitment, and make sure you're doing it for the right reasons, not to just get married because you're expected to, or something like that...

[MadHatter]

Married in my 20's and still hanging in there, don't think being married in your 20's is an exception to the rule. Most of the folks I know actually married around 25 or 26ish. I guess it just depends on your personality, I never wanted to be the old dude in the club looking for someone to go home with in my mid to late 30's

I was talking about those getting married at 19-23 are the exception to the rule. I think around 25 is when you figure out who you are and what you want out of life....at that time, you can find the person that has the same ambitions and life.

[OnlyPantherFaninMaine]

I'm 22 and have been with a girl I love for almost a year now... no way I am asking her to marry me anytime soon.

[iBBB]

i see that alot of us had a trial marriage.

so did i. lasted 1 year after 3 years of being together.

now im single and just broke up with my girlfriend (i went for the Ds and ass... its my fault)

marry the girl that you can be nothing but your true self.

the less you hide, the more it will last. The one that is 100% comfortable with who you are, is the keeper.

(but you also must know that she is nothing but honest with you in return)

Honesty, or the act of not changing your act based on your surrounding, is the fundamental variable of a good marriege.

When you dont have the will to plan anything without her, its time to hitch.

[Floppin]

I married the first time at 22, we were together three years before we got married and our marriage lasted a whooping 6 months.

I refer to my current lady as my wife, but she is, in fact, not my wife. We've been together around five years now and we have a three year old daughter. We've been engaged for two years but haven't really made any wedding plans at all, literally none.

[Ja Rhule]

Eminem said it best...

"But I do know one thing though, bitches, they come they go

Saturday through Sunday, Monday, Monday through Sunday yo'

Maybe i'll love you one day, maybe we'll someday grow

Till then just sit your drunk ass on that fugin' runway ho'..."

[Ivan The Awesome]

now im single and just broke up with my girlfriend (i went for the Ds and ass... its my fault)

I don't see the problem with this. All my ex's had D's and Ass. It's just that they were either unfaithful or not sure what the fug they want in life. I never blamed the D's and ass. That's what attracts you to them in the first place. Men are visual creatures. Women, not so much.

[Darth Biscuit]

lol at Arsen quoting Emenim in a marriage thread...

[Ja Rhule]

I don't see the problem with this. All my ex's had D's and Ass. It's just that they were either unfaithful or not sure what the fug they want in life. I never blamed the D's and ass. That's what attracts you to them in the first place. Men are visual creatures. Women, not so much.

Same. My ex was hispanic/ukrainian mixed. She had amazing tits and ass, I mean... just perfect. She had a porn star like body... but she was not very bright and she did things that pissed me off... Like driving 10 miles below speed limit and refusing to get a real job or go back to school... I just couldn't take it. I realized that I can only get along with a smart girl, I was right... can't go wrong with asians.

[ReadyorNot]

Nah, I just walked up this girl and said "you gon marry me bitch". We've been forcefully happy ever since. :)

[Mrs Pantherfan]

. Men are visual creatures. Women, not so much.

what?

[Ja Rhule]

Women are more materialistic. Lots of women this days are very high maintenance and they go for the guys that can support their needs and wants. No matter how good looking the guy is, if he's not making a good enough paycheck, he'll be out of the picture soon.

[Mrs Pantherfan]

I know absolutely no women like that...at all...guess I don't surround myself with trash like that

[Jase]

women are lazy, disgusting creatures oft-likened to the two toed sloth.