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Sorry, but this isn't something you should just take advice on from strangers on a message board. It's too important in your own life and your kids' lives to do that. Google the heck out of the associated legislation. It's all out there on the internet and easily found. Only you can know what's best for you and your children. That said... Actually, this is incorrect - custody and support are separate and distinct from each other. Just like a parent can't automatically expect visitation simply because they pay money, the reverse also holds true. https://www.nccourts.gov/help-topics/family-and-children/child-custody#:~:text=A parent's custody rights do,in the child's best interests. Way to introduce your preconceived incorrect ideals into the discussion, which he doesn't even deserve. It's not cool to imply he doesn't want to take care of his children. If you'd noticed, he didn't say he wanted to hold on to the money because he's being vindictive or because he wants a new toy for himself. He said he thought about it in order to spend this money on doing fun things with his kids. The difference between directly providing fun/necessities himself versus having to hand money over for his ex to provide is zilch. It's still providing, and there's plenty of stories of the parent receiving the funds never explaining to their child that the other parent also helped provide, which can be a factor in the latter's relationship with the child deteriorating. Plenty of non-custodial parents want to have a good relationship with their kids, and try their best to take care of their obligations. However, at one time or another, they may not be able to no matter how hard they try. It's difficult to get to a job to continue providing, when you have no money left to fill up your car with pricy gas; not to mention no substantial money for food, rent for a place to live, etc. The State doesn't care, it only cares about one thing - the parent fulfilling their court-ordered responsibilities. There's plenty of non-custodial parents not living up to that, so I'm not oblivious that there are jerks out there who skip town, but automatically assuming it's the intent here to me is wrong. About the only thing I agree with is the statement that he should not worry what his ex has or hasn't. That, and he needs to get off social media for a while. It's inherently toxic to begin with, so including the emotions of a divorce and child disagreement will only increase any vitriol he might have, which could also affect his relationship with the children. This is very true, along with an earlier post stating $250 a month is extremely cheap. It is. However, if you factor in that she is making four times as much money, it may be that she might actually owe him money if it were to go to the DCSE. OP, I'd use this calculator provided by NC State (assuming you're in NC, of course) to get a rough idea of your circumstances, and see what monthly amount you should be paying. It might even show that you are actually owed money by her. It's not exact science, but it is a decent approximation of how things might play out, should the government get involved. https://ncchildsupport.ncdhhs.gov/ecoa/workSheetA.htm DCSE is a complete nightmare hassle, and there's a good chance this could all blow up in your face. My suggestion is to self-educate by researching your rights, responsibilities, and what's best for the kids at the links I've provided above. You don't need to be a lawyer or know one to understand these basics of the process, and if you actually do have questions, they also have a help line to call for more info. It's up to you to figure out how you want to play this out, and no one can help you decide what you are willing to risk, but it does help to be armed with facts and knowledge when making that decision. Ok, I'll get off my soapbox now. Sorry everyone, I don't normally preach post like this, but 'Father's Rights' is one of those things I feel strongly about, and I like to make sure information is being relayed that should help his relationship going forward.

and pray the neck hasn't been badly warped from sitting in a basement for years... yikes! I never really got into LZ that much, and although I respect the heck out of them and Paige especially, I was always more of a Brian May fan. Though if you mixed his style and EVH, you'd produce one of my absolute favorites - Nuno Bettencourt. If anyone here hasn't heard of him, you should check out the YT below, as it's still one of the coolest things I've ever heard done on a guitar.

Wait... isn't that title held by our own head coach already??

So glad that I don't deal with that crap anymore. You don't have to scrape sunshine off the car windows...

well, remember - we just don't see it. 1000%

Isn't the Washington Generals the team that always plays the Globetrotters? If so, copyright? I'd think folks might get a bit confused with that one.

After looking at that room, I'm highly doubting she even has a social/sex life... well, I guess there's kinks of all types, but I digress...

Because some people just can't help but trumpet their own cultural bias to the rest of the world. It's a bit sad, but I've learned to just ignore it myself for the most part. For me, I couldn't care a whit less what Cam wears to the podium, so long as he's true to himself and free to be who he wants to be. More power to him, and to anyone who is brave enough to express themselves in a positive manner, however it is they want to. Last I checked, whatever level of flamboyancy he decides to display won't truly be harmful to anything, other than maybe to those poor pearls clutched by folks who deem it to be 'not the norm' as they're crushed in ire.

I wonder what that's like... must be nice.

They have these people called optometrists. I'm thinking that might help here... maybe? Eh, probably not though.

Nah, if that were the case Slye would have been on IR the past two seasons.

Same for me. Started watching when I was a toddler (Mom said it was about the only thing that would shut me up for hours on Sundays, lol). Supported them through the firing of Landry, even though that one stung, but enjoyed Johnson a lot though as his replacement. Then the firing, the drug rings and rape scandals, the overbearing owner coming into his own as a complete prick, and the complete lack of remorse for any of it. It was too much for me, so I gave up on that shithole of a team and needed to pick a new one. Still glad I decided to go NFC and the Panthers, because being a Jags fan is just... masochistic. That's what I'm guessing at least.

I read them as this: 1. Pie - I agree 2. Beer - I really agree and would buy you a beer IRL 3. The D - I agree and find this topic/response sexy too (no, I will not swing your way @TheSpecialJuan!) 4. Poo - This is crap, you're crap, your post is crap, and you should feel like crap for posting it too... crap 5. Flame - Your post should be burning in the lowest pits of hell right next to falcons fans, ambulance chasers, and your eternal soul, you heathen! I'm pretty certain that last one is wrong, but it's how I read it, so I never flame anyone's posts. Not even the guys with 100+ troll alts on here.

There was a "welcome to Charlotte" video for Horn out there, I think on the Panthers website. You should watch it - worth seeing how his dad is decked out.

Should have made the switch to LT back then permanent. It's general consensus is that it's easier to find a good RT than a good LT, and he showed he had the skills to step up well and develop. Too bad he had a coach who was pretty bad about putting the right players in the right spots (unless injury forced him to). Just think, if we had pulled the trigger, he might have an elite rating on the left side right now.

I think there's a minimum post count or something now of 100 posts before you can start your own thread. It's been forever ago since I joined this joint, so not really sure the exact number. @rayzor - can you help confirm please?

Since when did Alaina start confusing 'worth watching' with 'non-existent'?

X-Clown is the #1, like a lot folks have said. It was such a roller coaster of emotions watching that game, and in the end that play was almost cathartic to watch. Simply amazing from start to finish and St Louis was one of the toughest places to play in that time. Another one that is still a favorite of mine, which @pantherclaw alluded to that most of the younger generation may not remember or even know about, is the playoff beatdown we gave the Cowboys back in 97. All week long they'd been running their mouths about how they would easily run over the speedbump in Carolina, and their Coach Swizzlestick even went so far as to say he "had never traveled this far South for a playoff game." Complete disrespect for the team, its fans, and the area as a whole. So you can imagine how much fun it was to break their Superbowl dynasty like we did. During the game, Irvin broke his collarbone after being tackled by Lathon and I can't remember who did it, but watching Neon Deion get knocked out cold was kind of satisfying, as he'd been running his mouth since his days with Atlanta non-stop. It was pretty much a landmark victory that put our team on the map, and made for one heck of a proud moment for us brand spanking new Panther fans. Great game and one of my favorites for sure. Here's an article about the game I found interesting and well-written: https://247sports.com/nfl/carolina-panthers/Article/1996-Panthers-playoff-win-Cowboys-121442075/

You and me both. Give the guys you hired your wants/asks, let them figure out how to deliver best.

I'm pretty positive he knows what's best for his business is to let the guys he hired do their jobs. The man knows how to make money. I'm also of the belief he will have some input into the selection process, and not to degree of Snyder/Jones levels. More like, I'd really like us to grab a QB to solidify our offensive core the next few years by doing so, rather than naming specific players or draft spots. Some of the huddlers are making it out that he's handing out his big board memo and telling Fitts and Rhule to just follow it, no questions asked or something. I just don't see that from him or his personality as being the way he runs things. Suggestions and asks for what the plan is, yes.. absolute domineering on decisions, not so much.

Sorry guys, but where in that article does it state Tepper is 110% lock-controlling the pick? The author just mentioned that he's stated he wants to throw resources at the QB spot - that's it. You could make the argument that he has done that by having Fitts trade for Darnold. I also don't quite get the whole idea of a person owning and managing their own business being somehow 'meddlesome.' It's their toy to play with how they want. If that's an issue for you, you're welcome to go buy your own toy too. I personally would love to see Fields as our pick. I am doubtful he would land at #8, because too many other teams need a QB and most likely are willing to leapfrog us for one, but I can still be hopeful. Grabbing Darnold lets us adjust our draft as necessary, and gives another option for camp if we do draft Fields, who we could sit a few years. Once he's ready, we could then trade Darnold for more resources. I was big on grabbing an OT earlier this year too, but just because we picked up a QB in FA doesn't mean we should automatically grab an LT in the draft R1. There's plenty of good players in the 2nd-3rd rounds this year for OL. I think it's very likely, depending on who falls where, that we pick QB 1st and OT 2nd, because the reverse just doesn't have the same value. If we decide to pass on a potential franchise QB in the draft and roll with Darnold only, you halve your chances of finally getting that QB spot right, which has been stated by our BMOC is a top priority. Therefore, I just don't see us passing on Fields if he's there.

Looks amazing! I'd be stoked if I were in Carolina to go, especially if I could score some of those club tickets. Very cool that they have the entrance to the pitch going through there.

With the draft as deep as it is with OL this year, nothing says we can't still take Fields at 8 if he's there and still pick up a good to great OT in the second round plus an OG in the third. If TB manages to work a miracle and finds a trade partner for his services or even if we can't offload him to elsewhere, we could pick Fields at 8, and have him sit the year behind a hopefully much improved Darnold to learn our system. Then next camp, throw it to open competition, and see who wins. If it's Fields, great, we made a good pick at 8 this year and we could shop Darnold to another QB needy team (there's always a few every year). If not, then he sits for another year and learns more until he's ready to take over the reins. Odd man out with this would be Grier, and I don't believe anyone besides his immediate family would give a poo anymore if he's tossed. Not saying this will happen or even that it's likely to, but it is still a possibility (and to me, a smart one, should we go this route). Luck of the draft will tell us more.

Out of all the top prospects, Fields looks the best to me, and I'd be thrilled if we somehow managed to snag him. He's the guy that I'd be ok moving up a couple of spots for to ensure we snag him. If he's gone, stay pat and grab one of the top LTs instead, and hope we have enough draft capital next year to go up and get our QB of the future then. If no LTs are there at that point, do the best we can to trade down and get more picks if possible (most folks seem to forget that teams have to want to trade up too).