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Seeing a psychologist, therapist or anyone trained in counseling could really help, just make it's someone you feel comfortable with. 

I'm a huge advocate for mental health. In fact, I really do believe if everyone was required or it was customary for everyone to go see a mental health professional just once a year to touch base, the world would be a better place. 

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There's a rule of thumb about Ex's. They say it takes half the time you were in a relationship to get over that person. Now obviously that's an estimate but I believe there's some truth to that, or at least in my experience with myself and friends that timeline seems to be somewhat realistic. 

So if you dated for 7 years, you're only one year into the 3.5 year process of getting over her. It just takes time for our minds to move on when you're so used to something. Again I would recommend talking to someone. 

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On 11/4/2017 at 8:10 PM, Still Brooklyn said:

Grow up?

Being brutally honest, yeah it's kind of immature. And no shock, men can be a--holes.

Heard it said once that if all you focus on is getting laid, then laid is all you're ever gonna get. If you want something deeper, put more effort into getting inside her heart and mind, not her pants.

All that said, this is pretty common behavior in men who've lost a long term relationship, even when that relationship ended on poor terms.

Basically, no matter how hot and cool the new girl is, she's not "her".

You want to feel that connection you used to have with your longtime love again. Realistically, you're not gonna get that without a lot of time and effort, but you get impatient and you start taking the "lottery" approach (this ticket didn't win the instant jackpot so I'll toss it and get another one).

Again, you gotta change how you look at it.

For what it's worth, Dex...

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