Anyone have experience with parents divorcing

[SgtJoo]

I'm tryna get my mind in the right place about it.

[Jackofalltrades]

Mine divorced when I was 7.

Sucked then, still sucks 30 years later with both of them departed.

[Brooklyn Bully]

Mine divorced when I was 17. I'm 39 now. Both remarried. Both are happy. Both still have activity in my life. I see them 1-2 times a year. One lives in Charlotte, the other in Pensacola. It sucked when they divorced but eventually it became part of my life. I think they're both happy which is all that matters. 

[nickzz]

mine divorced when I was in 4th grade. I didn't care then, don't care now.

as long as it isn't a hostile breakup I can't imagine it being that bad. they are people too, if they don't like each other anymore then so be it. for me, both lived close by so I was able to see both of my parents regularly.

in the end they will both be happier from this. Once you see them being happier you'll be alright.

[SgtJoo]

Mine divorced when I was 17. I'm 39 now. Both remarried. Both are happy. Both still have activity in my life. I see them 1-2 times a year. One lives in Charlotte, the other in Pensacola. It sucked when they divorced but eventually it became part of my life. I think they're both happy which is all that matters. 

 

 

mine divorced when I was in 4th grade. I didn't care then, don't care now.

as long as it isn't a hostile breakup I can't imagine it being that bad. they are people too, if they don't like each other anymore then so be it. for me, both lived close by so I was able to see both of my parents regularly.

in the end they will both be happier from this. Once you see them being happier you'll be alright.

 

Thanks for the perspective. I like this.

[OnlyPantherFaninMaine]

Mine divorced the summer before my senior year of high school. Hit me hard and it's still a pain in the ass in some ways to this day. If you have any questions let me know.

[Dex]

Mine divorced a few months after I was born. They have a good relationship to this day though.

[Pejorative Miscreant]

Mine divorced when I was young.  A lot of poo was going on and it basically left me and my 2 siblings estranged from my father for 15 + years.  While I don't think it was necessarily intended I do think my mom had a lot of passive aggressive issues which caused this to happen.  When we started interacting with my father again she did not like it but came to accept it.  Eventually. 

 

My mom has since past on but all three kids (me, sister and brother) and subsequent grand kids have a very good if not great relationship with my father. 

 

We were young and had a limited view of what was taking place at the time so all that said, if there is any advice I can give it would be to remember that you loved your parents before they decided to split so you should probably do the same thing during and after the split.  Also know that there are two sides to a disagreement and usually somewhere in between is the truth. 

 

Good luck.  Hopefully things work themselves out sooner than later.

[Davidson Deac II]

Its all in how the two parents handle it. If the parents can get along, then it usually goes fairly well.  If not, then it can cause problems for many years.  My father left us when I was 5, and the manner in which he did and the way he acted afterwards caused a number of problems.  I didn't speak to him for the last ten years of his life. 

[pstall]

Depends on your age many times.

Mine split when I was in 1st grade. Very tough for several years but eventually matured.

The big key I always think is if both parents decide never to bad mouth the other or the others family. This confuses the child more and produces more hurt and they at times will blame themselves for the bad stuff.

[PandaPancake]

My parents divorced when I was 20. My dad remarried and ended up with two step kids. The son being the same age as me. My dad called me once to congratulate me on finishing school, he didn't come to my graduation, I didn't answer and he left a voicemail well he forgot to hang up his phone. He trashed me to his new wife for about ten minutes before I decided I couldn't listen anymore. I got called a fug up and how I'm the complete opposite of his step son. His douchebag step son went into the Army, my dad is a retired officer, and I went into the Marines. His son was just another run of the mill infantryman while I was exceptional at what I did but I have no desire to enlighten him. 

 

Earlier today I got a call from my mom, who got a call from my grandmother about my dad having a heart attack with 95% blockage. Kind of sad when the ex-wife has to call the son to let him know. At this point I really don't care.