Rant- I need to bitch about my wife's family.

[thefuzz]

1 hour ago, Khyber53 said:

Fix it and it's clear sailing. Don't fix it and it'll dog you for your entire married life.

I disagree, but to each his own.

Personally, I would have an honest discussion with the wife about it.  Your Mom doesn't think much of me, and that's fine, but from now on when you want to see her, I'm flying you up to Malverne (or whatever).

[thefuzz]

51 minutes ago, Snake said:

Situation is fuged because she is in bad health and wife wants to spend as much time as possible with her mother.  They both live in NY so at least they don't come by too often.  

Yea I have tried all those things and with most people it works. Wife is happy right now but it's a new problem every hour. I sent them to Charleston for two day so I get some peace and quiet.  The wife was happy about that so hopefully I can devise a new game plan by then. 

Now I get why she's miserable, and enjoys making you that way....

[Anybodyhome]

42 minutes ago, thefuzz said:

Now I get why she's miserable, and enjoys making you that way....

According to Ted Cruz, that's just the way people are in NY...

[cookinbrak]

12 hours ago, Mrs Pantherfan said:

Just smile and nod. 

In the interest of peace, that's how you play it. I'd rather be wrong for 5 minutes than right for a year.

[PandaPancake]

15 hours ago, Anybodyhome said:

If only they could have granted you presents while not being in their presence....

I saw what you did their

[Jangler]

14 hours ago, Snake said:

 I sent them to Charleston for two day so I get some peace and quiet.  The wife was happy about that so hopefully I can devise a new game plan by then. 

Move.

[Scrumtrilescent]

I made my MIL so uncomfortable to come over to our house that we only have to deal with her in doses.  I don't have to deal with her, I don't have to have her get her batshitcraziness on my kids...win, win.  

 

Of course, my wife is meh towards her mom to begin with, so its easier to start off with, though.

[cardiackat88.]

If you can afford it, offer them a hotel room.

[SCMunnerlyn1]

You didn't marry them you married her. Tell em to get the fug out. 

[Chimera]

So they came into your house and started on you? They wouldn't be welcome in my house.

Then again, can you tuck your tail for two weeks? 

[SmokinwithWilly]

On January 15, 2016 at 0:52 PM, thefuzz said:

Now I get why she's miserable, and enjoys making you that way....

As soon as I saw the NY thing I thought the exact same thing. It  always amazed me when I lived in Charlotte how many from NY/NJ move to the Carolinas only to tell me how much better things were in NY. I would always tell them to go back if it's so great. New Yorkers have always been a special kind of miserable and they love to share it with everyone. Personally, I would go to my doctor and explain the situation, get a 2 week dose of valium, and zone out the crazy.

 

[Anybodyhome]

2 hours ago, SmokinwithWilly said:

As soon as I saw the NY thing I thought the exact same thing. It  always amazed me when I lived in Charlotte how many from NY/NJ move to the Carolinas only to tell me how much better things were in NY. I would always tell them to go back if it's so great. New Yorkers have always been a special kind of miserable and they love to share it with everyone. Personally, I would go to my doctor and explain the situation, get a 2 week dose of valium, and zone out the crazy.

 

You know it.

Wife and I purchased a property about 10 years ago and held onto it, waiting to see what the real estate market was going to do. We started building our retirement home on the lot when, no sooner had the foundation been laid, the in-laws decided they were retiring and moving down from NJ, right across the river from NYC. So we sold them the house we had just started to build, recognizing immediately there was no way we could retire there and have any peace in our lives. 

Anyway, they've been down here for 6 years now and my mom-in-law still wears a "Jersey Girl" ballcap, has a NY Yankees sticker on her car and brags about everything NY and NJ. I got fed up with it and finally told her I-95 runs north just like it runs south and you're more than welcome to move back up there if it's so fugging great. And, by the way, I offered them half of what they paid me for the house. 

I'm from California and I moved to NC in 1992. I moved here for a reason and I fail to understand why someone would make the choice to move here then have the 'nads to bitch about it. Sure, there are things about CA I like and miss, but obviously not enough to move back. "You decided to move here, now just stfu and make the best of it."