Am I a bad person?

[tarheelblue89]

Doubt any of you remember, but during the summer I posted about how I found out that my Uncle's cancer was now terminal. Well it looks like he is now down to his final breaths.

I ask if I am a bad person because I can't find it in me to go to the hospital to see him or my other family members.

We weren't really close, but we always saw each other around holidays and would talk about sports for some time. He is a huge Duke fan

I hate hospitals, I've never been able to spend more than an hour sitting in one, just after a while I get really uncomfortable. I hate seeing people sad(especially my family members)

I know sooner or later, probably sooner, I'm gonna have to go in there.

Not really asking a serious question here, just wanted to put my thoughts down for a little bit.

[Epistaxis]

Closure is a good thing.

Go do your propers for your uncle's sake and your other family members.

You might not get another chance, and that kind of guilt lasts a long time.

You aren't a bad person, many people avoid these situations and blame it on "hospital phobia", but the fact is the hospital is just a building. The issue is between your ears.

You are a bad baseball fan, but not a bad person.

[Doyle]

My stepdad died of cancer. When he was down to his last breaths I left the hospital called my mom and told her I wasn't coming back. I didn't want to see him that way.

[The Saltman]

Go now and get it over with. I hate hospitals and funerals but just show your face out of respect.

[LifeisaGarden]

I don't think it makes you a bad person for not wanting to see their pain. I feel the same way but I try to think about what's best for the person in the hospital and leave my feelings out of it. I think if it were me I'd suck it up and go. There's nothing wrong with leaving after an hours time, I think that's an appropriate visitation time.

[Jase]

bite the bullet or you'll regret it later...the fact that you're even asking says you will.

[Wither]

I wouldn't say you were a bad person if you didn't go, but at the same time, no matter what is holding you back, it seems pretty low that you won't go.

[CLTPanther]

I feel the same way. I haven't seen my mothers father, my only living grandparent, since probably 2001 or so. It's not that I don't like him, but he never really gave a poo about us growing up, so now I don't really give a poo about him. I probably should go see him, especially to let him see his great grandkid, but eh, screw it.

[scpanther22]

I would go. sometimes having a person there thats not so sad and down helps the sick person out.Just be normal and talk to him.

[Darth Biscuit]

I hate hospitals too, don't blame you there... Go, speak to your uncle and leave... you don't owe anyone else anything.

[Epistaxis]

^ Reasonable points.

Depends on the situation.

I don't do the open casket thing for some of the same reasons.

Ghoulish, I'll keep my good, living memories.

If the person is still mentally intact, goodbyes can be very good for everybody.

When the person is not themselves for whatever reason, staying away is not unreasonable.

[The Saltman]

Do whatever makes u feel comfortable bro. It really doesnt matter what we say, your not a bad person.

[thefuzz]

I would go, shake his hand, tell him that he was a great uncle, and that you will keep him in your prayers, and leave.

Be a man about it.

[Wither]

Just put your fears and the other obstacles to the side and go through with it. Not going will end up hurting more in the long run.