Trying to pump myself up for this game

[ok2h8pep]

"  Ive been taking care of my father since 2009 when he had a stroke and mom had passed away "

You're a good person.  This is a very emotional time for you.  I personally would go to the game but I understand your reservations.  Ultimately you have to make that decision on your own.  There are pros and cons either way.

I'm sorry for your loss.  

[rayzor]

You were the child your parents needed you to be. I'm 100% positive they would say you deserve this trip. Even tho you paid for it, consider it a 'thank you for loving me' gift from them.

I won't say "try to enjoy" the experience out there because you're going to feel what you're going to feel. You don't get to decide that. Just open yourself up to all of it. It will be healthy for you. Just embrace whatever emotion comes your way. The important thing is to just live and accept what comes.

I'm sorry for your loss but excited for the release that both you and your father just experienced. Again, just embrace this moment in its entirety and don't feel guilty for feeling or experiencing anything. Just live.

[AviationMX]

Sorry to hear the news Cwing, I've also been in a similar situation.

All i can offer is this advice, time is what heals a loss like this-keep those you have lost in your memory as you move forward without them. living your life with enthusiasm and love is the greatest way to pay respect for those you miss. 

Go forth and keep pounding 

[CarolinaSunday]

I'm sorry for your loss.

[bleedsgreenandgold]

Sorry for your lost, I'm sure your father would want you to enjoy the game.

[raleigh-panther]

9 hours ago, chknwing said:

So Panthers win the NFC Championship. Purchased my Super bowl trip. Ticket in hand and excited.  Life is good.  At least it was.  Ive been taking care of my father since 2009 when he had a stroke and mom had passed away.  Suffering from dementia and late stage congestive heart failure, dad passed away Wednesday morning.  With the need to set up funeral arrangements etc.  I haven't had much time to grieve just yet and haven't even thought about this game at all.  With $7K invested in this trip the consensus was for me to go.  Just having a difficult time focusing on it.

Your Dad would want you to go and have the time of,your life and he will be the angel on your shoulder the rest of yours

Remember, someone who loved you in life would not want you to feel sad. They would want you to embrace and live fully the life you have ..that's why they brought you in this world to begin with 

now get on that plane and Keep Pounding !

[jayflip]

8 hours ago, LUUUUUKE said:

Pretty simple to me, go to the game celebrate the victory, and then go back home and deal with reality. Then once you're grieving, review your pictures and videos from said game.

 

NOT sorry if I sound insensitive, I'm military and have seen numerous people die beside me and plenty of people with brand new families with first children on the way. I'm a bit immuned to the civilian grieving process. 

 

None the less, you're pot commited and have tickets to the big dance. Definitely once in a lifetime event! Peyton won't be back, and I can almost assure you we won't go 18-1 ever again. Go and enjoy it! Deal with reality when u get back. 

If not, sell the tickets and take care of your priorities. I don't feel sorry for you, I feel sorry for the wives and children left behind that will grow up without fathers.

 

Walter Sobchak is that you?

[NanuqoftheNorth]

Deepest Condolences Chknwing.

The passing of our parents is a reminder that we are all mortal and not long for this world.

You've already honored your parents by doing the toughest job possible, taking care of them in their declining years when they needed you most.

Your mom and dad loved you so much they gave you the gift of life.  No doubt, they would want you to continue to enjoy that gift after their passing. 

It is rare to have an opportunity to participate in an event as grand as the SB.  Even rarer still to have your favorite team participating.

Honor your parents gift by living your life to its fullest.

[Camageddon]

So sorry for your loss.  I hope you can go to the game and know that your dad is there with you.

I'M FREE

 

Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free

I'm following the path God has chosen for me.

I took His hand when I heard him call;

I turned my back and left it all.

 

I could not stay another day,

To laugh, to love, to work or play.

Tasks left undone must stay that way;

I've now found peace at the end of day.

 

If my parting has left a void,

Then fill it with remembered joys.

A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss;

Oh yes, these things, I too will miss.

Be not burdened with times of sorrow

Look for the sunshine of tomorrow.

 

My life's been full, I savored much;

Good friends, good times, a loved ones touch.

Perhaps my time seems all to brief;

Don't lengthen your pain with undue grief.

Lift up your heart and peace to thee,

God wanted me now-He set me free

Author:  Shannon Lee   Moseley.

[PhillyB]

damn dude, i'm sorry to hear it.

[pstall]

Sorry for your loss. You were able to be there for him and did what you needed to do.

A few days of diversions and enjoying a possible once in a lifetime moment is right there. 

Keep your head up and the Huddle has your back.

[Cam's New Arm]

 

It ain't going to help.. but I look at death as something very simple. We are all fragile living creatures, no different than the bugs in the air or dogs in the streets. One day, we all stop ticking and it means absolutely nothing other than that, it was just his time.

 

Think about the good in your lives together and think not of the loss. poo happens and death happens to be the most common form of that poo.

 

Turn your pitty into jubilation and wipe that frown off your face. You have the life of his to celebrate.

I'm sorry for your loss, @ chknwing

 

[chknwing]

Just wanted to thank everyone for their support.  I managed to finish all the arrangements.  And will be getting ready for my flight to Cali shortly.   And I wanted to offer advice to anyone that reads this.  Gather all information and documents your loved ones may need in the event you pass unexpectedly.  Its very very hard to try and gather all the bits and pieces of information while still dealing with the loss.  It took me a half a day to find something as simple as my fathers birth place.

[Kevin Greene]

^

attaboy, scream your lungs out for our team!