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Jakob

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So, considering the Huddle has been giving out relationship advice lately I figured I'd see if I could get some advice. I'll try and make this short and simple.

 

I have a best friend. I've known her since I was a toddler. Shes been in my life since day one. Shes known me my whole life. She knows what I'm thinking before I think it. I can't remember the last time I went a day without talking to her. Our relationship has always been so close it seems closer than best friends, if that makes any since. I've had a crush on her since I was a child. I was just too scared to as her out. I found out a few years ago she felt the same way about me. After that we decided to date. The relationship was great. She was happy, I was happy. The only thing that changed in our relationship/friendship is it became physical. As a friend I loved her deeply and she loved me the same way. Once we started dating I think we both expected some magical *love* would happen. I don't know what we expected to happen but, it never happened.. We decided it would be best if we saw other people. We vowed it wouldn't change our friendship and everyone surprise it actually didn't change our friendship. Since then I dated a total bitch who I hated and she dated a guy who treated her like crap. I realized I had made a mistake and had let the wrong girl go, I loved her. I really did. She recently confessed the same to me. We were both happy when we dated. We are currently debating on dating again. I think that *love* everyone always talks about has always been there and we just didn't realize it. It's a confusing situation. I can't imagine myself being any happier than I am with her and she feels the same way. I'm wondering if someone has been in this situation before and might have some advice for me. If we both agreed the happiest we have ever been was when we were together shouldn't we give it another chance?

 

I could spend the rest of my life with her and be happy, she feels the same way.

 

 

Advice? halp?

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OneBadCat Grand Master

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Dude you have answered your own question. You are in a position a lot of guys wish they could be in.

 

 

I guess my only advice, depending on how old you are. Is that you are sure you are ready for this person this time. And also be sure that you are past the phase in your life where you want to see a bunch of people. She sounds like a kind of girl you shouldn't let go because you might regret it.

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Mother Grabber Grand Master

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She's about to be 21 and I'm about to be 20..

 

you don't have a concept of what 'rest of my life' is yet.  Most people don't figure this out until their 30s, if at all.  hence the whole, 'we've grown apart' thing that pops up in middle aged folks so much.  If you can talk with her, and she makes you laugh, then you're a lot further along towards having long term success than most people.  If she has big titties, too, buy buy buy!

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you don't have a concept of what 'rest of my life' is yet.  Most people don't figure this out until their 30s, if at all.  hence the whole, 'we've grown apart' thing that pops up in middle aged folks so much.  If you can talk with her, and she makes you laugh, then you're a lot further along towards having long term success than most people.  If she has big titties, too, buy buy buy!

Ah, I know things will change by the time I'm 30. Just in this moment in time I could see myself being 75 and still being with her. Shes always made me laugh, I always make her laugh. Her personality is the best..

 

Her body is a huge bonus... not that I'd base a relationship on looks.

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Anybodyhome Grand Master

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No rel;ationship advice but if you need marriage advice, I'm your guy.

 

I've been married 5 times so I am kind of like an expert on thart subject.....

 

 

FWIW, follow your heart.

 

Right there with ya... on number 5 right now and we're discussing separating/divorce for the holidays. Apparently her alcohol consumption is more important than our marriage and I'm tired of bitching about her drinking.

 

But you guys are young. Please take your time and enjoy what you have.

 

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PhillyB Grand Master

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read my lips:

 

waaaaaait

untiiiiilllll

yoouuuuuu

aaaarrre

thiiiiiirty

 

before making any actual decisions

 

you will be a completely different person then than you are now and whatever you find you have in common with this girl now that attracts you may simply not be there at a later place and time. you will change more rapidly through your twenties than at any time in your adulthood, in ideology, interests, goals, education, etc. 

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