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quarter life crisis?


Jakob

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I'll try to make a long story short, I turned 20 yesterday. normally I spend my birthdays having a big celebration or partying. All I could do yesterday was think about how fast the last 5-6 years of my life flew by. I feel like one day I'm just a stupid kid enjoying life and I wake up one day and I'm a 20 year old that needs to get a job, and go to school. I've literally wasted the last 3-4 years of my life. I've owned a car for 2 years but out of pure laziness I've delayed getting my drivers license. despite having jobs literally offered to me I've turned them down. I could go on for days.. Right before I turned 18 I was having an extremely rough time in life and once that passed I decided to take a few months just doing whatever I wanted. It was a terrible idea, I enjoyed relaxing and doing whatever I pleased so much it has put me in a rut for two years. I'm in a dead relationship that pretty much mirrors the rut I've been in.

 

So here I am at 3:30 am freaking the fug out wondering how I can get my life started.. I'm seriously thinking about packing my bags and just starting new somewhere. I need to make a change in life somehow...

 

 

Advice?

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if you're going to leave, do so traveling. expand your horizons, meet new people, have enriching conversations, fill your life with experience that may light some as yet unknown fire deep within you and give you some idea of what you want to do in life

 

also try to go to school at a local community college in the meantime if you can. get your core courses knocked out of the way for really cheap so when you decide to enroll in a university and pursue a degree you'll already have half your classes knocked out for absurdly cheap.

 

also consider leaving reidsville

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Ok, so you're only planning on living to 80?

 

When I was on my way out of high school I had no idea what I wanted to be. If I was forced to go to school immediately then I would have ended up being a history or polisci major. I didn't start school until I was 25. I was way more mature and had already been through a lot in life. 

 

I'm also from an old school mind of thinking. I don't really see any industry booming in NC. You may want to consider moving, if possible. Walmart in ND is hiring at $17.40/hr but I don't recommend that.

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Im 24 dropped out of college, have a part time job, still live with my parents, girls are disgusted by me and my only friend is 44 still lives with his mom is missing his teeth and just plays video games all day and eats cheezits. Holy poo what the hell has become of my life. Also I have gained 100 pounds in 3 years

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I'll try to make a long story short, I turned 20 yesterday. normally I spend my birthdays having a big celebration or partying. All I could do yesterday was think about how fast the last 5-6 years of my life flew by. I feel like one day I'm just a stupid kid enjoying life and I wake up one day and I'm a 20 year old that needs to get a job, and go to school. I've literally wasted the last 3-4 years of my life. I've owned a car for 2 years but out of pure laziness I've delayed getting my drivers license. despite having jobs literally offered to me I've turned them down. I could go on for days.. Right before I turned 18 I was having an extremely rough time in life and once that passed I decided to take a few months just doing whatever I wanted. It was a terrible idea, I enjoyed relaxing and doing whatever I pleased so much it has put me in a rut for two years. I'm in a dead relationship that pretty much mirrors the rut I've been in.

 

So here I am at 3:30 am freaking the fug out wondering how I can get my life started.. I'm seriously thinking about packing my bags and just starting new somewhere. I need to make a change in life somehow...

 

 

Advice?

 

For some reason, and I could be wrong, I remember asking you why you didn't have your license, a job, or why you weren't in school quite a long time ago.

 

You need to get off your ass and get moving.  It's Sunday, make the start tomorrow morning when you wake up.  Get to bed before midnight, set your alarm for 7:30 tomorrow, and start on the license, don't stop for one day until you have that in your hand.

 

As soon as you start that process, start looking for a job, any job close to where you live so you can start saving a little bit of money.  Speaking of, how do you eat, pay for clothes, afford electricity and water...etc?

 

It's summer time now, and I'm going to guess that you have a high school diploma, maybe I shouldn't, but whatever.  It's probably too late for first session of summer school, but you need to either look into school loans, or paying out of pocket for second session, and start your "core" classes at the local community college.  Some of us can help you with that if you will want us to.  The good thing about summer classes, is they are shorter, and the prof's don't want to be there any more than you, and you can knock a few not so fun classes out in just a few weeks.

 

After 2nd session, you need to commit to the fall and going to classes, don't wait for anyone to tell you, take the bull by the horns and commit.  Get a few semesters under your belt, and start looking at universities in state that would work for your budget, and figure out what you need to do to get there.

 

Don't wait a week, a month, or another quarter.  Get up and start preparing for your life, because one day you will wake up, and it won't be so easy and care free.

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