Trying to pump myself up for this game

[chknwing]

So Panthers win the NFC Championship. Purchased my Super bowl trip. Ticket in hand and excited.  Life is good.  At least it was.  Ive been taking care of my father since 2009 when he had a stroke and mom had passed away.  Suffering from dementia and late stage congestive heart failure, dad passed away Wednesday morning.  With the need to set up funeral arrangements etc.  I haven't had much time to grieve just yet and haven't even thought about this game at all.  With $7K invested in this trip the consensus was for me to go.  Just having a difficult time focusing on it.

[Kevin Greene]

Compartmentalize. Try to enjoy this weekend.

Your obligations will be waiting for you next week.

Sorry for your loss, RIP.

 

[Udogg]

Sorry for your loss.  Lost my mother on this day last year. 

That being said, I'm almost positive your dad would not only want you to go, he would want you to have fun. 

So, do what you need to until you fly, then party for both you and your dad. 

Win or lose, enjoy that experience.  I'm sure he will be watching.

[GRWatcher]

@chknwing I am so sorry to hear this. My sincere condolences. 

I can't tell you what to do or how to feel. Grief is personal. My mother passed the Monday before Thanksgiving 5 years ago. The next day I woke up surprised that the world could continue on, the sun would rise. As a family we went on with Thanksgiving as usual. It was subdued but we felt we needed to do it. We didn't think about what would she want us to do, we came to the decision based on how we felt as a family. To honor someone is not always about thinking what they would want but about what you need to do.

As has been said, your obligations will be there later. What else would you be able to do over the weekend that would help your father or your family?

[Dex]

Sorry for your loss man. Keep Pounding.

[LUUUUUKE]

1 hour ago, chknwing said:

So Panthers win the NFC Championship. Purchased my Super bowl trip. Ticket in hand and excited.  Life is good.  At least it was.  Ive been taking care of my father since 2009 when he had a stroke and mom had passed away.  Suffering from dementia and late stage congestive heart failure, dad passed away Wednesday morning.  With the need to set up funeral arrangements etc.  I haven't had much time to grieve just yet and haven't even thought about this game at all.  With $7K invested in this trip the consensus was for me to go.  Just having a difficult time focusing on it.

Pretty simple to me, go to the game celebrate the victory, and then go back home and deal with reality. Then once you're grieving, review your pictures and videos from said game.

 

NOT sorry if I sound insensitive, I'm military and have seen numerous people die beside me and plenty of people with brand new families with first children on the way. I'm a bit immuned to the civilian grieving process. 

 

None the less, you're pot commited and have tickets to the big dance. Definitely once in a lifetime event! Peyton won't be back, and I can almost assure you we won't go 18-1 ever again. Go and enjoy it! Deal with reality when u get back. 

If not, sell the tickets and take care of your priorities. I don't feel sorry for you, I feel sorry for the wives and children left behind that will grow up without fathers.

 

[Jangler]

Bitter sweet for sure. sorry for your loss.

[Kuhndog94]

Go and enjoy yourself, man. Have fun and after watching the Panthers spank the Broncos, go home and take care of everything. I don't know your father, but I'm sure he'd want you to go enjoy something you loved. You may never get this chance again. I hope everything works out. 

Just remember to Keep Pounding.  

[SuperLego5]

Sounds like more than anybody you deserve this game and this season.

You have the rest of your life to grieve.

[wud35]

Sorry to hear this. Can't tell you what to except keep pounding. 

[Jmac]

Sorry Cwing. Been through the same thing with family passing the last five years. Try to keep it in perspective and enjoy every second of the life you have. We all only get one shot.

[Inimicus]

My condolences.

 

In 2009 we lost my wife's mom and dad 9 weeks apart.  Her from pancreatic cancer and him from myeloma and a broken heart.

Shortly after his funeral we went to Disney for a few days and the distraction was genuinely healing.

Go to the game.  Have a good time.  Its no disrespect to his memory.

[Ra's Al Ghul]

5 hours ago, Kevin Greene said:

Compartmentalize. Try to enjoy this weekend.

Your obligations will be waiting for you next week.

Sorry for your loss, RIP.

 

Best answer, humans have an odd way of getting through things. 

Like KG said, problems will be here when you get back. 

So sorry for your loss.

 

[ladypanther]

So sorry for your loss chknwing. I hope the game is a good distraction for you.