Question for the married Huddlers.

[Ivan The Awesome]

I bet.

:P

[Davidson Deac II]

First marriage is really just a trial run anyway. :)

[PhillyB]

dont make getting married about finding someone just for the sake of having someone. you will end up with someone who's looking for the same thing... having someone for the sake of not being alone. then you will end up miserable.

find out what your passion is in life, what your purpose for existence is, and pursue it with everything you have. if you meet someone along the way who is interested in the same thing, then marry her. you will never get bored because instead of being about selfishly getting what you can emotionally out of each other, it will be about being caught up in an adventure greater than yourselves and working towards something bigger as partners.

[SCP]

For fug sake, no need to rush it. I mean I love being a family man now, but those years in my life where I didn't have to hear "you play too much golf!!1!" were pretty fuggin fun.

[Kevin Greene]

For fug sake, no need to rush it. I mean I love being a family man now, but those years in my life where I didn't have to hear "you play too much golf!!1!" were pretty fuggin fun.

Point taken but my wife and I who was/is a Travel Agent had a hellova lot of fun for 13 years before we decided to do the procreate thing. Of course, now my kid thinks everyone does cruises and spends their vacations in Hawaii. :P

Also, my wife asks me "are you golfing Sunday?", it's never "you play too much golf.".

[Ja Rhule]

From age 15-22 I fugged almost anything that moved. I dated some extremely hot girs (cheerleaders, double Ds and bubble butts, and etc) but later came to realization that its not about ass and tits but about being best friends. I found a girl who I just clicked with I knew she'd be there for me when I need her the most. You cannot have an argument free relationship so it's how you get through rough times and etc. When all these pieces fall in place, I knew she's was the one... General Rule of thumb... If you get into big argument within first 4 weeks of dating, she's probably not the one.

[Chaos]

Most married guys will say "don't do it - being single is the shiznit!"

I've been married for 11 years now. And I've always been a bit jealous of the single guys living the dream, but the grass isn't always greener on the other side.

Good luck, and take your time.

[Chimera]

How long did it take you to find your mate?

Or better yet, how many partners did you go through before finding the one that made you say. "I'm keeping this one."?

Currently, I've gone through 5 REAL GFs and I can't seem to seal the deal. Won't get into the details of it but I'd like to know from your experiences how many did you go through before getting hitched?

I'm at the point of my life that I just want to settle down, seems I'm the only one though. Which kind of sucks. O_O

The trick is not to try. You'll know when you're with her.

I got married when I was 21. Like CWG, I was young, immature, self-centered. My wife was a little older. Much more mature and family - oriented. We had absolutely nothing in common. But we got along great. We clicked. With our completely different upbringings and family backgrounds, our personalities meshed.

We've been very happily married for 11 years now.

I don't know what you'd consider a "real" GF. Before her, the longest I'd "dated" anyone was about 7 or 8 months. At that age (under 20) you only really have one thing on mind. I wasn't really big on dating, but I did it and realized how psycho women can be. Its very easy to find the wrong ones. For me, it was just the realization that she wasn't one of those "wrong ones". She turned out to be even better than I could have ever imagined.

[Inimicus]

Met my wife my sophomore year of high school. We dated for a few months and then moved on to seeing other people. We had a lot of common friends through high school and beyond so we were constantly at the same parties and saw each other often. Ran into her in a bar a few years after high school and we had a couple of drinks together. We're married less than a year later and last Monday marked 24 years.

Between us going out in high school and getting back together I had what I would consider only one other serious relationship. I was with a girl for 2 years and even gave her a ring but really we were not good for each other and we knew it.

For us the second time it was never as much a decision to come to as it was just a foregone conclusion. We just knew it was right. I won't say we knew that first night but within the first several weeks we could tell it was different and by 4 months in we were talking about it.

[Mrs Pantherfan]

From age 15-22 I fugged almost anything that moved.

hahahaha..this was me...Met my husband when I was 23..dated for 3.5 years..broke up for 6-7 months..got back together and got married 3 months later..8 years later..we're still together... He's my best friend in the entire world. We don't have kids so maybe that's why we kick so much ass and we don't hate or resent each other :)

[Wyank]

Met my wife when I was 23. She is 4th serious relationship. Not sure how many women just dated. Getting married never really crossed my mind until, "I'm late." Happily married since with the occasional, "F*ck you,".

That said, I wouldn't rush it. Things change when you are married with child. There's a certain beauty to being single. Watching Braveheart and seeing Mel Gibson scream out "Freedom!" has new meaning after being married for awhile. There's a certain freedom you lose once you take that next step. But if you find that right person, it's a loss that is worth losing. You marry the wrong person and I'm sure you will be screaming freedom as soon as the papers are finalized.

[Mrs Pantherfan]

The few single friends that I do have...ugh..every time they go thru the dating BS I think to myself "Thank God I don't have to deal with that poo anymore"

[Guest]

hahahaha..this was me...Met my husband when I was 23..dated for 3.5 years..broke up for 6-7 months..got back together and got married 3 months later..8 years later..we're still together... He's my best friend in the entire world. We don't have kids so maybe that's why we kick so much ass and we don't hate or resent each other :)

Damn, where was I when you were 21? ;)

[Johnny Rockets]

Started dating my wife at 13, married at 19, getting divorced after 19 years of marriage and in fact going to make it official on the our 19th anniversary date in a couple months. No regrets, I have learned a lot. Biggest thing I have learned is who you are at 20 is not who you will be at 30, 40 etc....people change, things change, and life changes.

Although the single life is pretty bad a$$, I loved being married and know exactly what I want the second time around and won't settle for anything less. I am no rush though. I am 38 now and my master plan is to give it another shot in my 50's. If the right one comes around before that, than fine but I certainly am not looking. If I never get married again that will be fine also, but I think there is nothing better than being in a great marriage with someone who essentially is your best friend and when that person comes around you will know they are the right one.