Your comfort absolutely plays into this. Are you comfortable with a serial abuser running your Offense. If so, then you are probably in the minority.
And he does not have to be charged with anything. Here is still responsible for his own actions. And those actions were reprehensible to women.
He likely will get his day in court, and it's probably going to be messy.
But that situation is exactly why you don't trade for him right now. Until this situation is resolved one way or the other, you just can't do that. And this is the view of pretty much every team in the league right now.
You can say "conditional picks", but the Texans have already indicated they won't go for that. And I wouldn't place any bets on them changing their mind. Plus if they do, I'd probably be asking myself why.